*Firstly, apologies for the title! It’s difficult to think of something short, snappy and to the point that would not get reacted to with hate from certain circles!*
So, apparently celeb gossip on the grapevine has it that Katy Perry and Russell Brand are breaking up! Of course, I do not particularly follow celebrity news so, it must be asked quite how I knew about it.
Well I knew about it because, with another short-term marriage between two impulsive celebrities comes another bout of smug mockery from the gay-marriage crowd.
As ever, let me put in a fucking disclaimer and I’ll put it in all capitals so it is big, clear and loud. I HAVE NO ISSUE WITH GAY MARRIAGE.
Want me to say it again before the misplaced hate comes in? Okay
I HAVE NO ISSUE WITH GAY MARRIAGE.
What I have a problem with is the mockery of, undermining of, and prejudice towards heterosexual marriage as a means to an end. It is sick, twisted, hypocritical and completely misses the point; after all, if marriage is so stupid and unsacred an institution as is often pointed out in these snide little comments; why the fuck do you want to be part of it!?
What began as a human and legal rights issue has become little more than an ‘Us vs. Them’ scenario and it is wrong. And to use the fairly exceptional, and publicity laden celebrity marriage scene as some kind of beacon for point scoring is just ridiculous.
Humanity is humanity, unfortunately. People are prone to impulses and great waves of emotion. People will get involved with others, fall in love and/or lust, and do stupid things as a result. This is true whether they are gay, or straight! This can be the nature of a human relationship, intense, yet short-lived. It is these relationships that gay marriage supporters are trying to highlight as being a reason gay marriage should be allowed but…Why!? The problem with short heterosexual marriages is not that straight people are indiscriminate sluts going around fucking and marrying anything with an opposing set of genitalia, the problem is that they, like all humans, can be prone to strong emotions and the relative ease with which they can get married makes them do silly things. If homosexuals can get married just as easily and fuss free you may find many gay Hollywood couples having shotgun weddings and swift, but much overpublicised divorces! There should be no smugness here, it implies superiority. It implies that a gay marriage would definitely last longer, and mean more, which is presumptuous and discriminatory to heterosexuals!
As I said previously, the gay marriage movement began mainly to ensure homosexual couples could have equal legal rights to heterosexuals; so that, should the worst happen in a relationship, partners could have a say in what happens to a partner’s body and/or estate. There are exceptional arguments for legal and human rights here and forgetting those so you can gloat over some divorced hetero couple is just wrong, and hypocritical in that it is mocking the sanctity of the very institution which you are trying to be a part of! (of course, that’s suggesting it has sanctity anyway, but we shall come to that.)
That said, a bit of hypocrisy and stupidity is nothing on the sheer offensive bigotry of anti-gay marriage supporters. So please, do not think for a moment I am defending these sanctimonious fuckers! Fuck them, WITH A SHOVEL! As a very lovely friend of mine would say.
The fact is, it seems like the pursuit of gay marriage has gone from being a pursuit of legal and social equality to wanting the forbidden fruit; and sadly wanting the spectacle! Unmarried couples, too, have many of the same issues faced by gay couples and yet we hear little of that. The fact is the pursuit of equality in terms of legality and financial implications (e.g. taxes etc.) is all encompassing and is bigger than just a wedding. Homosexual campaigners FOR marriage who do so by mocking heterosexual marriages are only making a case against themselves! Why would you want to be a part of something so inherently broken, and hideously archaic, as marriage? Marriage has no sanctity! Not on its own anyway! A marriage is only as sacred as the relationship it is confirming and then, if your relationship is so strong and sacred anyway, why do you, and indeed should you, require legal confirmation? Or indeed, religious! The law does not know you, nor does it care, it is a concept of rules! Why then can we not evolve it to such a stage that a couple may choose to be together and simply declare themselves a couple and have that establish their rights? Why do they have to go through a legal process or couple certification? A process which seems to neglect break up and indeed makes it hellishly difficult to do so sometimes? Surely we know enough of human behaviour and relationships now to realise that the stereotypical, traditional view is little more than a socially polite, though unrealistic fantasy!? Maybe you’re in a homosexual couple and you could get married and stay together forever…That’s great. Maybe you’re likewise in a heterosexual couple. But what if you have no desire to get married? The rights that homosexuals are fighting for in many territories, and being granted in many territories, are still being denied to those, whether gay or straight, who choose not to wed! Is this right? Is this not what we should be fighting to change, so that anyone in a relationship may have equal rights regardless of their sexual orientation and regardless of whether or not they wish to marry?
To wish to have a ceremony for yourself and your relationship is a desire socially manufactured. To wish to have a right to live as a couple and have legal rights that respect your relationship regardless of whether you’re married is natural. Let’s make sure we’re fighting for the right thing here, and in the right ways.